Different types of parenting styles will bring up different kinds of kids. What kind of types of your parenting style are? Today let’s focus on the different types of developing kids together and its effects.
Your parenting style can influence everything, for instance your children weigh, their education, how they feel about themselves. More importantly, you should ensure that your parenting style is beneficial to their healthy growth and development. Due to the fact that the way you interact with your children and how you discipline themselves will affect their whole life.
Researchers have found four types of parenting styles:
Each types of parenting styles has their equal point and different from others. What’s more, they they takes the different approach to raising children and also can be identified by different characteristics.
Do some of these assignments sound like you?
- You think that children should be heard but seen.
- When it refers to rules, you believe it is “ my way or the highway”.
- You never consider your children’s feeling.
If you accord with these conditions, you might be an authoritarian parent. Authoritarian parents believe that their children must follow the rules.
When a child hesitate the questions and ask why, authoritarian parents will tell them “Because I said so”. They are not interested in negotiating and they just pay attention to on obedience.
They don’t allow their children to participate to the challenge about solving problems. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the result with little regard for a child’s views.
Authoritarian parents would not use discipline but punishments.
So, they won’t train their children to make a better choice but they’re invested in making kids feel sorry for their mistakes.
A number of children tend to follow rules who grow with strict authoritarian parents, however, their obedience comes at a price.
Kids of authoritarian parents have a higher risk while developing self-esteem problems, owing to the fact that their opinions aren’t valued. Because their parents are strict to them, they maybe become a good liar in an effort to avoid punishment.
If you are in accordance with these factors, you might be a authoritative parents.
- You spend a lot of effort to creating and maintaining a positive relationship with your children.
- You explain the reasons for your rules.
- You enforce your rules but take their feelings into consideration.
Authoritative parents pay time and energy on preventing behaviour problems before they start. They also use positive discipline strategies to enhance good behavior, such as praise and reward. These kinds of children tend to be happy and successful and they are good at make decisions and evaluate safety risks by themselves.
Researchers found that authoritative parents might become more responsible adults and are willing to express their opinions.
- You set rules but hardly enforce them.
- You seldom tell them the result.
- You believe that your child will learn better without your interference.
Permissive parents are patient and lenient. They often step in while in trouble and adopt an attitude of “ kids will be kids”. Permissive parents always play a role as friends to their children rather than parents. They usually encourage their children and to talk with them. But they usually do not pay too much attention to preventing them from making mistakes and wrong choices.
Growing with permissive parents, children are more likely to struggle in their learning. It is possible for them to exhibit more behavior problems because they do not obey the rules and authorities. They always lack of self-esteem and have a number of sadness.
They are also possible to have healthy problems as it is difficult for their parents to limit junk food intake. They are more likely to have dental cavities because they don’t force child good habits, such as brush teeth.
- Uninvolved Parenting
- You don’t ask your kids about school or homework.
- You barely know where your kids are and who they are with.
- You spend seldom time with your kids.
They have little knowledge of their children. There are less rules and they will not gain too much guidance, nurturing and attention. They spend little time to solve their children’s basic needs. At other times, uninvolved parents lack of knowledge about kids development. Sometimes, they are overwhelmed with other problems such as work, paying bills, housework and so forth.
A Word From Verywell
Sometimes parents should fit into several category. If you are a permissive parents sometimes, other times you should be more authoritative.
Researches suggest that authoritative parenting is the best one. But if you tend to identify with other parenting styles more , you can make measures to be a authoritative parents.
With dedication and commitment to being the best parents and also can keep a positive relationship with your kids. Meantime, you also can establish your authority in a healthy manner. As time goes by, your kids will gain benefits from your authoritative style.